Quick Autistic Thought

Relationships wise, the hardest part for me as a very genuine, direct, honest, straight shooter type autistic gal is having to remember and learn over and over and over that many folks aren’t those things.

Some folks use manipulation in very real and scary ways. Some folks lie to you in a way so casual it’s similar to breathing for them. Some folks simply can’t stomach speaking hard truths so they’ll hide them, no matter the cost. Some people don’t consider open communication as necessary for healthy relationships and think some things SHOULD be “unsaid.” Some people literally don’t know to “be real” bc society fucked them up so bad.

It all make me sad, but mostly for them.

Emphasizing: Pathological avoidance of conflict is just as toxic to healthy relationships as overly harsh and hurtful conflict.

The strongest relationships are strong in part because you work THROUGH conflict together. You tell the truth. You see them as worth the work.

It’s not the absence of conflict that makes it healthy or real.