Relationship audit!

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Dear fellow hyperverbal hyper empathic hypersocial or extroverted autistics/AuDHDers ESPECIALLY those also with a healthy relationships and self-growth special interest…….

🛑YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIPS AUDIT MOMENT!!!!!

🚫Who have you accidentally become an unpaid therapist to lately?

🚫Where are you forgetting to build or reinforce boundaries with others YOU need to be happy?

🚫What boundaries with yourself have you transgressed lately that are draining you?

🚫Who in your life if they were to text you right now, would you feel a big sense of dread because you have been hearing from them too much lately?

💚Who in your life generally fills your well in an emotionally joyful, glimmer kind of way?

💚 Who upholds your same relationship values and works hard to create a positive relationship with you that meets both of your needs?

💚 Are you accidentally neglecting anyone who you love and wish you wouldn’t be?

💚 Who tries to anticipate your emotional and sensory needs so that you can be your best self when you guys are hanging out?

💚 Who shows that they are just as interested in hearing about how your relationships with other people are going as you are with theirs?

💚 Who helps you out with your own struggles when you need a shoulder to cry on?

💚Who “gets you” so well but you haven’t reached out lately because you’ve spent more time on relationships that are somehow more intellectually stimulating, but might not be what you need on a heart and human level?

Because of delayed processing, we often have to really think about these things not when we’re hanging out with our friends or family, but after… So truly take a moment and try to reflect on how you feel with the others you’ve been spending your time around lately.

🚫Is that new friend genuinely someone who brings you joy, or are you excited about the novelty of the new relationship?

🚫Is that old friend someone who really still has your back? Or have you been giving so much more than you’ve been getting back lately?

I was listening to a podcast today and heard myself in it in an in a very similarly-styled autistic, lovely young woman and hearing her talk about what she is going through at 26 made me realize even here at 40, DAMN I’ve done it again.

gotta go create some space so I am not lost in some relationships 🥲